Friday, May 11, 2018

12 Signs That Your Partner Is Madly In Love With You

By on May 11, 2018

True love is not only felt, it’s visible to the naked eye. But if you are one of those people who look for proof in every situation and prefer facts to deductions, arm your eyes and pay attention to the following signs.
We at Spell Shodow 12 Signs That Your Partner Is Madly In Love With You analyzed a fair portion of couples in love and came up with a list of things that signal that your partner loves you a lot.

1. They share their food.

If you remember Joey from “Friends,” a popular series back in the 90’s, he never shared his food with anyone. Even if this person was a girl he really favored and went on a date with. In fact, he even did the opposite — never missed on a chance to eat the girl’s portion once she took off to the ladies’ room.
Apparently, there are many people out there who hate when someone takes a bite of their food, especially without asking first. Many men also feel weird about romantically feeding each other with a spoon or a fork. That’s why seeing your partner sharing their food with you, offering you a taste of it, and never minding you eating from their plate in a public place or at home is a good sign of affection.

2. They leave you voice messages.

Online communication often takes the most of our time with other people these days. It’s a good alternative for those who can’t be together as much as they want but still feel the need to stay connected.
However, plain words on a screen don’t render the same meaning or have the warmth and intonation that were intended. They’re often impersonal. Voice messages, on the contrary, are not. They’re touching and they make distanced conversations so much better.
Next time you listen to a voice message your partner sent you, remember that they took time and effort to record it, sometimes having to find a quiet place all because they love you.

3. They leave their phone unattended.

Speaking of phones, some people guard their technical devices like vultures over their prey. They use all means of protection like passwords and fingerprints and never leave their phones or tablets unattended. When at home, accompanied by your partner, this behavior seems strange and might make your partner wonder why you are being so protective. Usually it means that the person has something to hide and this isn’t a good foundation for a relationship built on trust.
No one says that your partner should provide you with all passwords for all social network profiles, because we all have a right to privacy. But if the person behaves naturally around you and shows the signs of trust and sincerity in their intentions, that means nothing but true love.

4. They are up for trying new things.

When two people meet, they both bring their preferences and dislikes to the table. The older we get, the harder it is for us to say “yes” to something new, especially when it comes to hobbies and ways of passing the time.
A partner who deeply cares for you and wants to learn more about your personality will definitely try to take part in your extracurricular activities. Being involved in one hobby and doing things together, be it cooking courses or horse riding, tightens the bonds between the two of you and opens up your hidden qualities. Plus, it’s always another opportunity to spend some time together instead of being apart. And make sure to value the other person’s desire to spend as much time as possible with you in this era of busy work schedules.
That said, we don’t expect men to give you a hand during makeup classes or women to hold your screwdriver while you’re fixing the car in the garage, but how about finding something interesting for both partners?

5. They leave you lovely notes and surprise gifts all around.

The devil is in the details, and so are true feelings. Grand gestures for big anniversaries and celebrations are a normal thing. Most of us don’t bail on these occasions and prepare presents. But it’s the small acts of kindness and unexpected pleasantries that have the most value and light up your day.
Small “I Love You” cards hidden in your coat’s pocket, funny messages scribbled on a bathroom mirror with toothpaste, the last piece of your favorite chocolate left for you, the examples are endless. And the main meaning such things render is — “I cherish you, and I want you to know about that each and every day.” Isn’t that a sign like no other!

6. They change their habits.

Old habits die hard, we know that. We also know that no one should be expected to change their personality completely in order to stay in a productive relationship. Relationships are about two people being who they are but trying to be the very best version of themselves for each other.
Let’s say you live in a one-bedroom apartment. You’re an early bird and he used to watch TV half way through the night. Will he try to move his bedtime schedule up a bit for you to share some cuddling moments and have a good night’s sleep together? If yes, then you are lucky.
Or imagine a situation when he is a real bookworm (it happens, trust us), and you... well, you aren’t one. Having earrings and lipstick laying all over the house was pretty common for your single life. Would you try and become more organized, putting things on their place for him? If yes, then he is lucky. That’s what we mean.

7. They bear with you through the dullest moments.

This is between the two sexes. Both of us have their “things” that the other sex tries but fails to understand or accept.
For guys, that would be shopping. Not many men out there are eager to accompany their ladies on a shopping spree that can go on for hours. But if your man is up for spending time and money on clothes and accessories more often than not, he’s really into you. More so if he takes an active part in the choosing and fitting process, giving his advice and opinion (carefully thought-through, of course).
For girls it can be any sporting event, either live or broadcasted on TV that their second half is into. Life in the house can be put on hold for the period of championships or important games, but you can choose to get involved. Ask him to explain what the game is about and why he enjoys it so much. Sincere interest and a wish to be a part of his entertainment is bound to be appreciated.

8. They opt for conversation, not silence.

We all dream about that one person who we can keep silence with. It’s not about oppressive silence when you have nothing to talk about and struggle for a topic to discuss. No, it’s about that wonderful silence when everything is calm and clear, and you feel safe and quiet next to each other.
However, when a stormy period comes and there’s a situation or a problem to talk about, thoughtful conversation is the key. The person who really cares about your relationship and harmony between you two will always choose honesty and dialogue as opposed to suppressing discussion. The better you can learn to talk through matters, the easier it will be on your way forward. Love is about understanding too.

9. They are proud of being with you.

It’s OK to keep your relationship private at the beginning when you two are walking unstable ground or rather want to secretly enjoy the romance. But when it’s been a considerable amount of time since you started dating, and one of you is still being shy about your coupledom — that’s not cool.
Seeing that your partner is proud of being with you is, on the contrary, so uplifting. They’re ready to introduce you to friends, family, and colleagues, they talk about you a lot, they value your small steps toward the set goal, and celebrate your big victories. They change their social networks relationship status, are more than happy to post photos with you, and never stop holding your hand when meeting someone out. You’re together now, what’s not to be joyful about!

10. They don’t turn away from you when you need them the most.

Life isn’t just sunshine and rainbows, in fact, it’s full of pretty ugly moments too. Illness can happen to any of us and it’s usually unexpected. Setting aside the negative consequences of being ill, it’s a good chance to find out who you are with.
If your partner can be easily scared off by your not so beautiful looks, high temperature, weakness, newly discovered neediness, and a couple of whims — well, that’s a pity. If they eagerly run around buying oranges (“A good source of vitamin C!”), changing thermometers (“It’s going down, hurray!”) and binge watching your favorite series with you (“Oh, not again...Ah,OK, let’s do it”) — you found the right person.

11. They listen to your advice.

This one is really tough. On the one hand, women are looking for a strong man who can make decisions and men want a woman who can do better than being needy and indecisive all the time. On the other hand, we all want a partner who is ready to listen to us and won’t be ashamed of asking for advice. Two heads are better than one.
So if you found a special someone who values your opinions and wants to hear what you have to say, cling to them and don’t let go. Because they love you.

12. There’s lots of touching, and even biting.

It’s scientifically proven that not only touching but also nibbling is an actual bonding experience. It might be the case, of course, that someone you are in love with is a reserved person and they don’t favor “all that cuddling” very much. But if your partner always strives for kisses, touches, snuggling, caressing, and even biting, it’s definitely a sign of a warm-hearted and deep relationship.
The desire to nibble on someone you love is explained by a certain connection in our brain between perceiving something is cute and looking for food.
Share your personal stories with us about when and how you first felt that your partner loves you and what gave them up!
Read More

Thursday, May 10, 2018

13 Things You Need to Stop Tolerating at Work If You Want a Successful Career

By on May 10, 2018
Statistics show that people change their jobs every 4 years and 2 months. There are very different situations at work and while some can be pleasant and even rewarding, others can be almost unbearable. There are many reasons to leave a position and changing jobs is sometimes even necessary, especially if an honest discussion with upper management leads to nowhere. There are situations that clearly signal that it’s time to escape and it’s important to know what’s best for you and your career.
Although work is probably not the most important part of life, it’s possible that it’s still quite a large part of it. We at Spell Shodow 13 Things You Need to Stop Tolerating at Work If You Want a Successful Career decided to find out which situations you shouldn’t tolerate at work.

1. Inadequate bureaucracy

Just imagine a situation if you had to coordinate every lunch break or any action at work using notes and permission slips — getting a vacation in such a company is a serious quest. And if you had to make a very detailed report of what you’ve accomplished during the day and measure how much time every task took, you could find yourself spending more time on the list than on the work itself. This is a terrible picture but nevertheless, many companies continue to demand this from their employees.
  • Forbes calls such companies “slow” and terrible for career development so there is no point staying in this mess — do something to try to reduce the amount of bureaucratical nonsense.

2. Certain things cannot be discussed.

If someone tells you that discussing your salary is wrong, untactful, or impolite, you should interpret that as a warning sign. And if they try to make you feel guilty for fighting for your own financial interests, you should know that building a good career in this company will be extremely hard.
  • Discussing your salary with your boss and asking for a raise for objective reasons, such as the increase in the amount of work, is perfectly normal.

3. Incidental expenses

Market relations mean that a job is a place where you earn money — not spend it. If you have to spend even a bit of money at work for the needs of the company and it’s not compensated, then it’s not a very good company to be working at.
  • Even if it’s just some inexpensive office supplies, it’s recommended by business coach and career consultant Rachel Ritlop not to tolerate such situations and to stop working for such companies.

4. Taking the blame

You come to work on Monday morning, open your inbox, and see an angry letter that says that you had to calculate the expenses for a specific project by Friday at 6 PM. While you are certain that you didn’t receive this task and this is the first time you’re hearing about it, any of your attempts to explain fall on deaf ears. Such situations are a good reason to think about changing your job.
  • If your boss starts blaming you for not completing tasks that you weren’t informed of or if they give you strange or vague tasks, then it’s time to bring up the issue and come to a solution that will suit you.

5. Working with ghosts

Ghosting is a relatively new term that is used for a situation when a partner leaves a relationship without saying a word. The psychological harm of this phenomenon is being studied, but even a colleague at work or your boss can do a lot of harm if they show signs of such unprofessional behavior.
  • If your questions or requests are constantly being ignored, you should talk to your boss or to your HR department.

6. Promises, promises...

Constant promises to give you a raise or a promotion, to improve your workplace, to provide you with training or courses, or any other false promises are just a way to keep you working. Career coach Roy Cohen says that such bosses never manage to keep their position for long which means that you will never get whatever it is they promised.
  • If your boss promises you something that’s tied to a specific date, it’ll be easier to get them to keep their word. For example, if you were promised a raise if you complete a certain task, you’ll be able to prove the results of your work.
Sometimes, bosses use friendly relationships to exploit their employees. If your boss is a good friend of yours or just a very nice person, it’s very hard to refuse to do something for them: finish the task, stay an hour later, and so on. This becomes systematic over time — and you may one day look up and notice that you’re just working overtime for free.
  • A friendly relationship at work is great unless it cancels out the working process. If it does, we’re not sure it’s something you can call a friendship.

8. “It doesn’t work like that here.”

Even the very fact that such a phrase is said should make you worry. It is a rare case when it’s prohibited to come early or to work overtime. Usually, these words hide the unwritten rules of the company: not to argue with the boss, not to have your own opinion, or not to take a vacation or a sick leave for more than a certain number of days.
  • If there is a list of rules that contradict the law, you should think well and hard if you really need such a job.

9. Emotional blackmail

When you have a really close relationship with your boss or your coworkers, you might hear such words as “You’re leaving us” or “How can you betray us like this?” and such methods of emotional pressure make you cancel your own plans, your goals, and may even make you go against your principles. Such phrases are often said when you are trying to fight for your opinion or your rights.
  • Forbes experts say that employees who are ready to give up their principles are less successful than those who are not. That’s why we don’t recommend staying in an environment where you can’t be yourself.

10. “We have a difficult situation now.”

Constant reminders that the company is in a difficult situation will never stop. Temporary duties will be permanent, you won’t get a raise, and the promised changes will never come.
  • Unless the company tells you how long the difficult period will be and how you will be compensated for the overtime work, you shouldn’t meet them halfway. It’s important to not let the temporary critical situation become permanent.

11. “We are doing you a favor.”

If the HR department presents a sick leave or a vacation as a gift, you should start to worry.
  • Don’t forget that employees have rights and it’s a violation of the law if those rights are taken away.

12. Changing priorities all the time

Urgent tasks become non-urgent, a working day has no plan, every hour the boss tells you to drop whatever you were doing and start doing something else — have you been in a situation like this? If you are asked to do one thing right now and something else 5 minutes later, there is no way you can work well and focus on your job. The only thing you will definitely have here is constant stress.
  • A good boss is supposed to provide an employee with a plan and the change of priorities should be an exception, not a rule. If your boss changes priorities, you should talk to them about it.

13. Sexism

Unfortunately, sexism comes in all forms. This can be sexual harassment in the workplace, dirty jokes, comments that women aren’t as smart as men, or even a difference in salaries between male and female employees.
  • Any gender discrimination causes stress and has a negative effect on an employee’s self-esteem. You should protect yourself.
Almost everybody works to make a living. Some lucky people enjoy what they do, but there are many people who struggle at work. Have you ever had to deal with a difficult work situation? Share your stories with us in the comment section below!
Read More

19 Photos That Can Make Anyone Feel Uncomfortable

By on May 10, 2018

’Is perfectionism a gift or a curse?’ could be the title of a new world bestseller and the lines to get it would be longer than those for a new iPhone. It just so happens that the number of people yearning for perfection has increased greatly within the several past years but still aren’t outnumbered by the number of things that bring small but nerve-touching chaos to this world.
Spell Shodow collected 19 annoying photos that will make even an early-stage perfectionist lose their mind.

19. You can even hear the tape laughing at you.

18. Why does it always finish so suddenly?

© fooyoh  

17. It’s painful to look at.

16. “My coworker returned the front desk stapler like this. Told me it ran out of staples.”

15. Eternal problem

14. Who created these kind of lids on bottles?

13. Don’t you get frightened looking at this?

12. Plastic with another ton of plastic in it. Isn’t this too much?

11. Just imagine that these are someone’s desks.

10. The road leading to somewhere...

9. Milk with ice cubes. Wanna try it?

8. That piece of dust that stayed under the protection glass

7. Our whole district dislikes this neighbor.

6. Do they really think that we won’t notice the difference?

5. How did they manage to cut the pizza this way?

4. An elevator that will drive you crazy.

3. The puzzle isn’t finished. How will we live with this?

2. Stop the madness!

1. During an important interview:

Which photo made you feel the most uncomfortable? Please tell us about it in the comments!
Read More
Subscribe to: Posts (Atom)
Home Archive for May 2018

12 Signs That Your Partner Is Madly In Love With You

13 Things You Need to Stop Tolerating at Work If You Want a Successful Career

19 Photos That Can Make Anyone Feel Uncomfortable

Subscribe to: Posts ( Atom )